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Mental Health and The Gospel

Joke: Photons have mass? I didn’t even know they were Catholic.

Some of the words and phrases in common use – like ‘mental health’ – don’t occur in the Bible. We, therefore, need to pause and think: Do we all mean the same thing by the phrase? And, what are the contact points between this phrase and the Bible?

  • Let’s think about this phrase ‘mental health’.
  • Take 2 minutes to come up with some descriptions of what this phrase means to you– Compare your description with the other people doing this study

Look again at your list – mental health is more than not having a mental illness, isn’t it? Good mental health is characterised by a person’s ability to fulfil a number of key functions and activities, including your ability to

  • Develop emotionally, creatively, intellectually and spiritually
  • Initiate, develop and sustain a mutually satisfying personal relationship
  • Face problems, resolve them and learn from them
  • Are confident and assertive
  • Are aware of others and empathise with them
  • Use and enjoy solitude
  • Play and have fun
  • Laugh, both at yourself and at the world

What is also likely to be evident from your list is that no-one is perfectly mentally healthy – we are all on a spectrum – and we may move up and down on it from day to day

Some background! 

Dr. Gro Harlem Brundtland, director-general of the World Health Organization, reported in 2000 that “five of the 10 leading causes of disability worldwide … are mental conditions” ( Bulletin of the World Health Organization, 2000, 78).

The five conditions she listed are major depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorders, alcohol abuse and obsessive-compulsive disorders. In addition, significant mental-health disorders plaguing humanity include phobias, generalized anxiety and panic disorder. Any of these maladies can be disabling.

Worldwide, mental-health afflictions are increasing. The total share of disability caused by them increased from 10.5 percent in 1990 to 12 percent in 1998 and is expected to increase to 15 percent in 2020—almost a 50 percent increase in only three decades. Depression, currently the fifth-leading cause of disability, is projected to jump to second place by 2020.
While treatment options—including medication and counseling—are available, prevention is the better choice.

Why is prevention preferable rather than treating a problem after it arises? Although treatment often works, it usually is much more costly. The costs often include financial losses, physical-health deterioration and trauma to family members—sometimes resulting in family disintegration.

Many mental illnesses can be prevented, and the Bible provides helpful information to that end. After all, it is a handbook from God on what we should think and how our minds should work. Among other things, the Bible tells us how to relieve stress and the kind of stimuli we should allow into our minds. Here are some crucial biblical keys to mental health.

Discussion

  • What are your thoughts on this?
  • How do you deal with your mental health

Here are some helpful ways of addressing mental health.

1. The power of a positive attitude

We start with the obvious merits of simple positive thinking. In Philippians 4:8 the Bible instructs us in proper thinking: “And now, my friends, all that is true, all that is noble, all that is just and pure, all that is lovableand gracious, whatever is excellent and admirable—fill all your thoughts with these things” (New English Bible, emphasis added throughout).

Those who consistently apply these positive words will practice positive thinking, a habit crucial to mental health. “A positive outlook is known to improve recovery from surgery and the immune system’s ability to fight off disease as well as aid in cancer recovery, to reduce the fight-or-flight response and hence stress disease [and can] … restore our tranquillity and turn our unhappy, anxiety-producing hormones into happy ones” (Archibald Hart, M.D., The Anxiety Cure, 1999, p. 217).

The characteristics of an optimistic mind-set include the ability to focus on the positive when the negative seems overwhelming. The key lies in turning a problem into a challenge and then working to meet it.

Negative thoughts are often the product of established patterns that are related to our belief systems. This could be about a variety of things, such as self-esteem, productivity, finances, relationships, a career, or anything else.
We also must avoid filling our minds with the negative and degrading aspects of the world around us. The apostle Paul wrote that some things are so shameful we should not even speak of them (Ephesians 5:12). Yet many of the degrading things to which Paul referred fill our print and electronic media.

If we want good mental health, we should discipline our minds to avoid a degrading mental diet. The principle of “garbage in, garbage out” certainly applies with respect to our minds. The net effect of what occupies our minds—and often comes out of our mouths—will be as pure or as corrupt as whatever we let enter our minds. We jeopardize our mental health when we subject our thinking to mental trash. To remain psychologically stable, we must discipline our minds to avoid thinking in the gutter.

  • Often criticizing people
  • Being attracted to drama
  • Having a victim mentality
  • Always expecting the worst
  • Feeling depressed
  • Taking things personally
  • Dwelling on bad news

IN PLACE OF THIS WE CAN

  • Spend less time with negative people
  • Don’t feel guilty
  • Like attracts like
  • Reprogram your mind
  • Practice Gratitude
  • Celebrate Small Wins
  • Say LOVE more
  • Say Thank you more

2. Reining in feelings and emotions

Where do feelings and emotions come from? 

When God created man in His own image (Genesis 1:27), He included the human personality, which can express godly feelings.

The primary characteristic that summarizes God’s very being is love (1 John 4:8, 16). 
But Paul describes a greater range of godly characteristics and emotions as aspects of the fruit of His Spirit. They include “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23, New International Version). 

The Bible exhorts us to be full of this Spirit (Ephesians 5:18).

If these traits are dominant in our personality, we are less likely to suffer from mental aberrations. Such a mind will be self-controlled; it will be stable and able to endure the difficulties of life. It will be optimistic and optimism is a vital part of a healthy mind. “Optimistic people are more able to roll with life’s punches and slough off stress—and they live longer” (Bradley Wilcox, M.D., Craig Wilcox, Ph.D., and Makoto Suzuki, M.D., The Okinawa Program, 2001, p. 273).

Conversely, “a person without self-control is as defenseless as a city with broken-down walls” (Proverbs 25:28, New Living Translation). This person will be vulnerable and driven frequently by negative emotions. His outcome is described in Galatians 5:19-21. His accompanying problems can include adultery, sexual immorality, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, envy and drunkenness. Living this way exacts an automatic penalty that makes one a candidate for instability, unhappiness and mental problems.

We choose our emotions, and we live with the consequences. The types of emotions that prevail in our minds are a major determining factor in whether we succeed at life itself. “Emotions are a mixed blessing. They are responsible for many of man’s finest and greatest achievements. They are also responsible for some of the greatest tragedies in our world” (Norman Wright, The Christian Use of Emotional Power, 1974, p. 13). If we choose healthy emotions, we can be happy and achieve success in life.

3. Taking time Out 

We live in such a fast-paced world that it is essential to schedule breaks from our routine. “Taking time to rest is not an option in today’s world; it is a necessity. Yet more people struggle here than in almost any other area of their lives. It is perilous not to take time to rest” (Hart, p. 118).

Even Jesus and His apostles felt this need. Notice one such occasion in Mark 6:31: “Then Jesus said, ‘Let’s get away from the crowds for a while and rest.’ There were so many people coming and going that Jesus and his apostles didn’t even have time to eat” (NLT).

For mental rejuvenation and avoiding stress overload, we need daily rest. Especially as we get older, an afternoon nap can rejuvenate us. We also need regular vacations if our financial circumstances and work situations permit. Even if one does nothing but stay at home on holidays, breaks from our routines can be beneficial.

In addition, God tells us we need to schedule one day in the week for rest. After completing His work of creation, God rested on the seventh day (Genesis 2:2). The Hebrew word for “rested” is shabath, the verb form of the noun translated as “Sabbath” in Exodus 20:10-11, where God gave the Ten Commandments to Israel and commanded the Israelites to keep His Sabbath holy by resting on the seventh day of every week

4. A social support system 

“… Woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up,” says Ecclesiastes 4:10. 

Good mental health requires contact with other people. One of the first revelations of the Bible is that God designed us to need other people: “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18).

See our previous study on Fellowship

The need for emotionally supporting family and friends is scientifically established. “What happens if we have no close relationships? The message that emerges loud and clear from scientific evidence accumulated since the mid 1970’s is that having a reasonable quantity and quality of social relationships is essential for mental and physical wellbeing” (Paul Martin, M.D., The Healing Mind, 1997, p. 157).

Human interaction spawns growth and is essential mentally and physically. Proverbs 27:17 tells us that “as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another” (NIV).

Perhaps the chief benefit of uplifting social contact is that it provides us the opportunity to learn how to love and serve. This is vital to mental health. “I have never met a person who is genuinely focused on helping others who is unhappy or dissatisfied with life … I can assure you that they are happy because they are directing their attention away from themselves” (Hart, p. 223).

Jesus recognized this and demonstrated that love and service are keys to happiness and mental health. He performed the menial task of washing His disciples’ feet to demonstrate that His disciples were to serve one another as He had served them. After washing their feet Jesus said, “Now that you know these things, happy are you if you do them” (John 13:17, Twentieth Century New Testament). Later in the same chapter He told them, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another” (verse 34).Jesus earlier said, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39).

Discussion

  • What stands out?
  • What additional ways can we look after our mental health?

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During this week’s episode of On The Table, we bring to the table, Evangelism! As Christians, we all know that we need to share the Gospel, God has equipped us and commanded us to be witnesses of what He has done for us in our lives. However, a lot of us make excuses as to why we don’t share the Gospel as often as we ought to. So, how can I better share the Gospel?

Guests: Toye Akinoso, Deborah Suen, Rufaro Jerahuni , Jireh Antwi

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On this weeks episode of The Pulse Podcast, we aim to tackle a question which most of us have wrestled with at one point or another, “How do I discern God’s will for my life?” For many people, the answer to this is a lifelong pursuit which often leaves us frustrated. Mike Omoniyi provides some encouragement and some key principles to help us better answer this question.

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Guests: M.T Omoniyi, George Obolo, Deborah Seun, Caleb Sekitto


10 Ways To Overcome A Spiritual Drought

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We will all go through spiritual droughts, but they do not need to take over our lives. Sometimes great victories are followed by great temptations. I remember after preaching at large conferences or singing at large concerts worrying about the impending crash that would come. Moments of euphoria and exhilaration would be tempered by a persistent lull that I just couldn’t explain. If you can empathise with me, firstly, breathe. It’s normal and there is a way out. Even Jesus went through the wilderness after great glory on the river Jordan. During Joseph time, 7 years of plenty quickly turned to 7 years of drought. In this post, you will learn practical tips on how to get through your spiritual drought.

1. How you respond in the drought will determine how long you will stay there. Israel had a journey in the wilderness that was supposed to a last short time, but because of their wrong reaction to the wilderness, that journey lasted 40 years. Jesus on the other hand, went through the wilderness in only 40 days because His response was epic. He spoke the word, whereas Israel complained in the wilderness.

2. The Holy Spirit can lead you to the wilderness, but only the Holy Scriptures can guide you through it. Jesus was led to the wilderness by the Holy Spirit, but He battled through it through the power of the Scriptures. Rely on what you KNOW from the Word, and not on momentary feelings when you are in spiritual wilderness. (Psalm 1:2 -3)

3. God’s silence is NOT God’s absence. Like a teacher is silent during a test, God may be  ‘quiet’ while you are in the midst of a test. During a physical test in a class, one must rely on what was already learned and what a student committed to memory while the teacher was speaking. Then the teacher speaks again as soon as the test is over. Likewise, during God’s tests, He can be quiet. A believer must rely on God’s prior teachings to get them through the test, and God WILL show himself. (2 Chronicles 32:31)

4. If you’re going through hell, keep on going. David said; though I walk THROUGH the valley of the shadow of death. Walk through, don’t live in it. Paul said; put on the armour of God to withstand on an evil day. Don’t let an evil day or the valley of death become your life by building a tent. (Psalm 23:4)

5. God does not just reward us when you find Him, but when you seek Him. “Blessed are those who HUNGER and THIRST for righteousness,” not those who ARE righteous. Just for pressing into God through fasting and prayer and seeking Him, God will reward you and give the breakthrough you need. God is a rewarder of those who seek Him. David was called a man after God’s heart, it does not mean David had God’s heart. It just means that David was after it and God blesses that. (Matthew 5:6)

6. Suffering is not an excuse to stop serving. For example, Job prayed for his friends when his own life was in shambles, and Jesus healed even while he was getting arrested. Abraham prayed for healing for others when his own wife was barren. We do not serve for ourselves, but for God out of obedience and love for Him. Life is like tennis; those who serve well seldom lose.

7. Sometimes the best thing you can do on your worst day is to take a nap. When your body is tired, emotions take over and affects your spiritual life. The enemy WILL take advantage of your weariness. When Elijah was running from Jezebel, the angel of God offered him nothing but food for strength and sleep for rest. Jesus also napped, and He was the only one who was able to calm the storm. Be refreshed. Get rest. Nap.

8. If you miss devotions, that does not mean you have lost your devotion. Devotions are your time spent with God, and devotion is the life you give to God. If you question your devotion for missing a few days of reading the Word, it is a lie of the devil. You are in a RELATIONSHIP with God, not a CONTRACT. Christians should not feel guilty when they miss a day of prayer, but they should feel hungry! Devotions are your time spent with God, and devotion is the life you give to God.

9. DO NOT make permanent decisions when you are spiritually dry. Decisions like relationships, moving, career, and other commitments need to be made when you are out of that brokenness. It is when your mind is alert, your spirit is receptive and your emotions are stable.

10. Develop stamina and patience. God allows dry seasons in our lives to establish the fruit of patience to make you complete. A fruit develops from sour to sweet, and that takes time. Likewise, patience needs time. Therefore in the midst of dry seasons, do not complain or give up because God is making you more complete. You become a person who is not swayed by emotions or circumstances when patience grows to ripeness.

Ultimately remember that God is still on the throne, however, this doesn’t mean he is far away from us. God is not on some mountain, He’s not to be reached for. For the believer, God is very present and he is with us. In over 98 Places in the Bible, God speaks about himself as being with us and not some abstract thing we have to find.

Here are some examples:

  • Deuteronomy 31:6 – Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
  • Joshua 1:5 – Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
  • Isaiah 41:10 – Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
  • John 15:14 – We learn about the deep and abiding presence of the holy spirit which will follow the believer wherever he goes

The feeling you feel will move on, just like every other feeling! God will never leave you.

When Our Leaders Disappoint Us

The topic of leadership has always been central to the church. Jesus Christ, the ultimate leader was described as the ‘good shepherd’ (John 10:11) and as Christians, we are tasked with emulating Jesus Christ and becoming ‘good shepherds’ within our own communities. Throughout the Bible we see Jesus Christ lead the disciples by example, through service and in love. In Jeremiah 3:15 God promises us ‘shepherds’ who will ‘lead with knowledge and understanding’. The word for pastors in the Greek is ‘poimen’ meaning a shepherd: one who takes care of the sheep and tends to them. Our pastors are highly important in our spiritual journey. For many of us, our pastors are the ones we seek advice from, they inspire us to go deeper in our relationship with Christ, live holy lives and feed us with the Word of God on a weekly basis. The question is what happens when our leaders disappoints us in their actions.

The nature of man

For I was shapen in iniquity and in sin did my mother conceive me.

Psalm 51:5

“Not many [of you] should become teachers [serving in an official teaching capacity], my brothers and sisters, for you know that we [who are teachers] will be judged by a higher standard” James 3:1. The Word of God already points to the expectation that is put on those who are in ‘official teaching capacities’ be that as a pastor, bishop etc. When people are on a pedestal in whatever capacity there is a pressure for them to remain faultless as they preach on (the word of a) faultless God. This, however, is unrealistic and condemnation of those who fall is unbiblical.

James continues from His acknowledgement of the pressure on leaders in James 3:2 where he says: ‘we all stumble in many ways.’ The reality is we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). Any man that says he has not sinned is a liar. (1 John 1:10) As humans, we are all under the temptations of the flesh and a title does not absolve any man from this. The failings of a church leader should humble us into seeing our own frailties and our great need for God’s strength in striving for a holy life in a fallen world. Resist the temptation of pride to enter your hearts and gossip to form on your lips about those we are called to honour (1 Pet 5:5).

Facing Disappointment

Don’t let your faith be wounded, God is not limited by the actions of man. If our faith was rooted in the actions of man and how they portrayed the Gospel and carried themselves, then our faith would be fruitless. Satan is well aware of the impact of a leader on a congregation and when said leader falls into sin especially publicly, it can have a humongous knock-on effect on the church members and leave many feeling confused and broken.

After the Lord withdrew his favour from King Saul because of his disobedience, He had Samuel the prophet anoint David as king. During a time of war and Philistine intimidation towards Israel, David killed the giant Goliath, Philistine’s most prized warrior, and the Jewish women sang: “Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.” (1 Samuel 18:7, NIV). This caused Saul to become increasingly envious of David and plot to kill him. David, however, despite several opportunities, refused to harm Saul. In the midst of pain and hurt, we can take an example from David’s own experience of disappointment:

  • He believed God was the ultimate judge and feared the Lord: “May the LORD judge between you and me. And may the LORD avenge the wrongs you have done to me, but my hand will not touch you. (1 Samuel 24:12)
  • Tarried in prayer: Throughout David’s journey, we see him constantly communicate with God and seek His help for his next steps. “Once again David inquired of the Lord, and the Lord answered him” (1 Samuel 23:4)
  • Humility to accept an apology: After Saul was confronted by David, Saul “wept aloud” (1 Samuel 24:16 and said “You have treated me well, but I have treated you badly.” (24:17) David did not reply with arrogance but instead gave his oath to Saul not to harm his descendants. (1 Samuel 24:22) 

Communicate

Having open communication with your leader is important. When your leader disappoints
you, you can often be left feeling confused and insecure in your relationship. This feeling
needs to be confronted. You can only pretend for so long and if you are not fully convinced
of your leader’s integrity, you will leave said leader at some point. Let your love be honest
(Romans 12:9) and your speech gracious (Ephesians 4:24,29). You should be able to speak to your leader or other church leaders when you feel troubled, not forgetting their past labors of love .

Grace

Intercession refers to prayer that goes far beyond a person’s needs or burden. The first response to any form of disappointment should be prayer, not condemnation. We should all endeavour to have relationships with our pastors/ leaders that are strong enough that they are in our prayers even before a fault is expressed but it should be reflexive when we see our spiritual leader in trouble.

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed…

James 5:16

Further denouncing leaders is not the way Jesus taught us to live, He, himself is the epitome of grace so what ground as Christians do we stand on to further condemn? Our ultimate leader, Christ, was crucified for our sins, showing grace to all humans despite our continuous shortcomings. He loved us even though we could never deserve it.

We are all called to lead in some way whether that be in the home, church, work or as we lead people to Christ. Within these roles and in our personal lives we all fall short, some privately, others publicly. It is only God’s grace that sustains us and allows us to continue to press towards the mark. Giving grace whilst being open and honest with your leader as well as seeking God even in the midst of confusion are all necessary steps to overcoming disappointment.

The Importance of Paying Close Attention to Worship Lyrics

The Christian worship music scene has become more and more populated over the last few years. With some of the more contemporary songs, it has become difficult to reconcile their message with the Bible. The adverse effects of poorly structured worship songs do not just impact the body of Christ but also unbelievers who are on the outside looking in. How must we evaluate the lyrics of the songs we sing to ensure they maintain biblical integrity?

Worship over time

Over the years, worship music has changed in various ways. The style of music coming from the church has evolved from a focus on hymns to a more contemporary style. There has been an introduction of new genres, new instruments, and new expressions of worship. The most notable difference, however, is their lyrical content. The songs we have today are less wordy and catchier, making them easier to remember. However, in some cases, these songs are also less accurate when relaying theological truths.  For the most part, yes, worship songs are still about God, but it seems as though poetic licence is held in higher regard than the Bible.

There are worship songs that leave you guessing what the writer meant and make it difficult to reconcile their description of God with the God we see in Scripture.  The lack of clarity and consistency can make worship a perplexing experience.

Worship is for God

Jesus’ encounter with the woman at the well presents us with the type of worship God requires (John 4:19-24). We are to worship from our hearts and with full consideration of God’s words in the Bible about both His character and His actions. Our emotions should respond to what we have understood in our minds about what He has revealed about Himself. The use of poetry and imagery is an integral part of any song. However, the priority for the believer is to use their words to rightly proclaim the nature of God.

Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. 24 God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.

John 4:23-24

It has been argued that if we understand what the writer was attempting to relay, then it should be okay that the lyrics are slightly ambiguous. That would be an acceptable stance if these songs were merely for our pleasure, but they are not. Worship is for God, so we should desire to give Him our best. This means avoiding compromising lyrics at all costs.

Our worship is at its best when it is shaped by who God has objectively revealed Himself in the Bible. Worship lyrics must reflect a firm grasp and understanding of the nature of God; otherwise, we risk offering a sacrifice that is not pleasing or acceptable to Him.

The problem with ambiguous lyrics

Aside from directly affecting our worship, ambiguous lyrics leave us with a warped view of who God is. We can walk away from a worship set believing God’s love is “reckless”. Yet the reality is, God’s love in saving us was carefully thought out and executed from the beginning of time. When writers, intending to share how they felt about God, fail to give proper attention to the appropriateness of the lyrics used, they misrepresent God and paint a false picture in the mind of the Church.

In an age where Christian music is becoming more and more evangelical, the unbeliever is also adversely affected by lyrics that inaccurately and ambiguously present God’s nature. These lyrics are almost synonymous with the act of speaking in tongues in a corporate gathering (1 Corinthians 14). An established believer may be able to make inferences from a song that enables them to understand God rightly, but the unbeliever can only take these songs at face value. Suppose songs, to be poetic, lose the integrity of sound doctrine. In that case, we rob unbelievers of the opportunity to know who God is through our songs.

Listen intently and write faithfully

Do we then conclude that hymns are good and contemporary Christian music is bad? No! We must practice active listening when choosing the worship songs we sing. We shouldn’t just be drawn by a nice beat or a catchy hook. We need songs that stand upon the word of God, clearly and rightly describing His nature.

This generation has often neglected hymns, but they are an excellent source of biblical truths. There is also a world beyond mainstream Christian media. There may be a brother or sister in your community that has released a single might surprise you. There are songs outside of the spotlight that are not only well composed but also rich in biblical truth. Be diligent and make the effort to seek out these songs.

To the songwriters in the church, your songs are to aid the body of Christ offer up worship to God. Your songs inform people of who God is. They are more than expressions of your heart, they are the very words we use to exalt God. So, when you write, be faithful to scripture and do not compromise.

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.”

Colossians 3:16

The songs we sing must be deeply rooted in God’s word. To truly magnify God and give Him the worship He deserves we need to pay close attention to the lyrics we sing. It’s not good enough to have “nearly there” lyrics, the songs we sing must hit the mark every single time.

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Guests: Raph Olu-Jide, Sonja Lee-Barnett, Shelley Fleuridor, Arinze Okoh⠀

How Can I Suffer Well in A Comfort Driven Society?

Nobody likes suffering. There are global initiatives that make it their mission to alleviate suffering. Comfort has become the mantra of the day. The message in today’s society is that anything that causes the slightest discomfort should be avoided. Worst still, this message has seeped into Christendom. Yet, the bible teaches that suffering is and will be present in this life; and is intrinsically part of the Christian life. So how can we, as Christians, suffer in such a way that shows the world, that our comfort is found in Christ alone?

How long Lord? 

If you live long enough, you will encounter suffering. In this fallen world, due to sin, suffering is inevitable (John 16:33). Sometimes the suffering seems so unbearable that you are left asking the question; “how long Lord?” I’m sure that the woman with the issue of blood asked herself this same question multiple times. For those unfamiliar with the story, there was a woman who had been suffering from a discharge of blood for 12 years. She had seen many physicians to seek a cure to no avail (Mark 5:25-34). After spending all her money on these physicians, her illness grew worse. One day she encountered Jesus, and by simply touching the hem of His garment her suffering ceased immediately. Perhaps you can relate to this story? Have you been suffering for years and received no relief? Have you spent money on various solutions and been left in a worse situation than what you began with? Well, I recommend Jesus. As the woman in Mark 5 would testify, an encounter with Jesus changes everything. 

A different outlook on suffering 

Suffering can often be viewed with a myopic lens. In other words, suffering can be defined in such a narrow way that it minimises the experiences of a broad range of people. By definition, suffering is ‘the state of undergoing pain, distress, or hardship’. Therefore, suffering doesn’t just have to be stage 4 breast cancer, or your house being raided by armed robbers; it can also be continued rejected job applications or heartbreak from a relationship. There is no standardised threshold for pain. Humans are different and will respond to difficult situations differently. What people don’t need when they are suffering is for their pain to be delegitimised because “it’s not as bad as other people’s”. Whilst sobriety is necessary when engaging with someone’s suffering, what people need foremost is comfort. But what type of comfort? The kind that is worldly and seemingly idolatrous or the kind that is godly and purely divine?

Comfort from above 

When suffering comes, the urge to seek refuge in comfort is not too far behind. Humans find comfort in a plethora of things, each insufficient to bear the weight of their grief. From food to sex, no created thing can deal with suffering, and such is an unfortunate consequence of sin. Only Jesus can provide the type of comfort that can swallow the gaping hole that suffering produces. And yet, knowing this, I find myself running to lesser things to produce this comfort. Do you? You see Jesus as the best person to run to when suffering arrives because He suffered as well (1 Peter 2:21). 

To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.

1 Peter 2:21

Jesus didn’t just suffer, He suffered for you and me. Because of our sin (our rebellion against God), we stood condemned before a holy and righteous God. But God who is rich in mercy sent His Son, Jesus, to live the perfect life for us, only to be pierced for our transgressions and bruised for our iniquities that we may be healed! (Isaiah 53:5). Now, this resurrected Jesus beckons everyone to come to Him not just for mercy for their sins, but mercy for their life (Hebrews 4:16). This means when suffering comes, we aren’t alone. We have a God who will be right there with us as we experience our pain. A God who knows what we are going through and will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). 

Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

Hebrews 4:16

Suffer well 

So how can we suffer well? We must first know that suffering isn’t the end. Nothing, not even the greatest pain in the world, can separate you from the love of God (Romans 8:38-39). That each suffering moment you go through is testing your faith to produce in you a steadfastness that will result in you being made perfect and lacking nothing (James 1:2-5). That even when you suffer because of your sin, God’s hand is not too harsh to destroy you but to discipline you, thus reminding you of your sonship (Hebrews 12:7). The scriptures remind us that many are the afflictions of the righteous, but God will deliver us out of them all (Psalm 34:19). And when you pray, and the suffering just doesn’t seem to end; know you have a good Father who won’t delay long in giving you justice (Luke 18:7). Finally, whilst you wait, know you have a God who promises to comfort you through all your afflictions (2 Corinthians 1:3-4) and when God sees you through, you’ll be able to point people away from their idols and to the One who can truly give comfort through all suffering.